S6E1: Meet the New Besties: Your Companions on the Breast Cancer Journey
New season. New Besties. New Topics.
When you're going through breast cancer treatment, finding voices that truly understand what you're experiencing can feel like discovering a lifeline. That's exactly what the Besties with Breasties podcast has been for so many patients and survivors—and this season, we're excited to introduce you to the new co-hosts who will be walking alongside you.
Beth Wilmes, founder of Faith Through Fire, with co-hosts Jess and Jamie, both young breast cancer survivors and moms, share their personal stories, discuss what inspired them to get involved with Faith Through Fire, and explore the dynamics of their friendship. The conversation covers everything from how they met at survivor retreats, to their different approaches, to life after cancer.
This season focuses on relationships after breast cancer, including topics like learning to love yourself again, dating post-cancer, and navigating life changes with partners and family.
Whether you're newly diagnosed, in treatment, or thriving in survivorship, this podcast offers community, laughter, and real conversations about life with and after breast cancer.
Learn more or support Faith Through Fire at faiththroughfire.org
Companies mentioned in this episode:
- Faith Through Fire
- Thrivent Gateway Financial Group
00:00 - Untitled
00:18 - Introduction to Breast Cancer Awareness
07:14 - Introduction to the Relationship Series
08:29 - The Shark Rescue Story
17:24 - Understanding Our Ideal Saturdays
22:38 - Group Dynamics and Personal Styles
25:46 - Exploring Relationships and Personal Growth
Welcome to the Besties with Breasties podcast.
Speaker AI'm Beth Wilmes, author, speaker, and founder of a human investment organization otherwise known as a nonprofit called Faith Through Fire.
Speaker AOur mission is to reduce the fear and anxiety breast cancer patients feel and replace it with hope and a path toward thriving.
Speaker BI'm Jess, a mom of two, former college soccer player, elementary PE teacher, and fitness enthusiast.
Speaker BI was diagnosed with stage three breast cancer just before my 40th birthday.
Speaker CAnd I'm Jamie, researcher, retired professional boxer, and breast cancer survivor who keeps life busy and joyful with a funny farm of animals, a loving family, and a big heart to serve others.
Speaker AThis podcast is about our experiences with.
Speaker BBreast cancer and life after as young survivors and moms.
Speaker AHey, ladies.
Speaker AHow you doing?
Speaker BHey.
Speaker AOh, man.
Speaker AStarting with the bang.
Speaker ASo we are excited about this episode because you are the new besties.
Speaker AYou guys may recognize Jess and Jamie from previous episodes.
Speaker ABoth have co hosted and been on the podcast as guests as well.
Speaker ASo they are our new besties, and they're gonna be joining me this whole season, and we're gonna be talking about all things life, laughter, survivorship, what's ahead for the show.
Speaker AAnd so today we're just gonna kind of get to let everybody else get to know you all.
Speaker ASo today we're gonna learn about what inspired Jamie and Jess to get involved with Faith Through Fire, and we're gonna have a little bit of fun so you can get to know them and land on what you guys are excited about with this relationship series.
Speaker AIf that sounds good.
Speaker CAwesome.
Speaker BYeah, let's do it.
Speaker AAll right, well, before we jump into kind of how we met and what inspired you to get involved with Faith Through Fire, let's hear from our first sponsor.
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Speaker BAll right.
Speaker AWe were kind of talking about this before, about how we all met each other.
Speaker ASo, Jess, why don't you remind me how we.
Speaker ABecause I've got a baby brain and I don't remember how I meet people.
Speaker AIt's terrible.
Speaker AYep.
Speaker BSo it was, you know, back a few years ago at the survivor retreat, I went, and honestly, the only person I had ever met was Sarah, and I had only met her one time before I went to that very first retreat.
Speaker BSo I just remember walking down the steps and I was like, oh, there's Beth.
Speaker BBecause to me, you were like, the podcast, Beth.
Speaker BAnd I was, like, in awe because I had listened to the podcast so much, going through treatment, and we even talked about that.
Speaker BYou were like, oh, you're like.
Speaker BI think it's always so funny when people are like, oh, the podcast.
Speaker AYeah, it's.
Speaker AIt's like a.
Speaker AYou thought I was famous and I'm like, I'm not.
Speaker AI'm not even.
Speaker AI'm not even remotely famous.
Speaker AIt's not even a little bit of fame there.
Speaker ABut I thought that was so funny because you are a super fan.
Speaker AAnd just so you guys know, if you're listening, if you're a super fan, you clearly get promoted to become a co host at something.
Speaker ASo just hang in there, you know, you never know what could happen.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker BNever know.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker ASo, okay, so we met at the retreat and then we kind of just started hanging out.
Speaker AAnd that's.
Speaker AThat's kind of how we blossomed.
Speaker AWhat about us, Jamie?
Speaker CWait a minute.
Speaker CSo like, it blossomed to, like, a friendship?
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker AThat's awesome.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker AI feel like.
Speaker CI feel like ours took a little different path.
Speaker AI don't.
Speaker AI.
Speaker AAgain, I don't remember because I have no.
Speaker AI have no long nor short term memory.
Speaker ASo it's really.
Speaker AYou could tell me a million different things and I'd have to believe you.
Speaker ANo, but Jess and I, I mean, I feel like over time we've just hung out more and more and.
Speaker CYeah, she's pretty likable.
Speaker AYeah, you're very likable.
Speaker AYou're very.
Speaker AYou're a very positive person, which I think is why I'm drawn to you, because you're very positive and you're forward facing and I think that that's, you know, I'm always Attracted to people like that, so.
Speaker BOh, well, thanks.
Speaker AYeah, I try to be.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker AYeah, yeah.
Speaker AAll right.
Speaker AJamie, you.
Speaker AYou kind of alluded to the fact that our.
Speaker AWe have a more, like, dramatic relationship history.
Speaker CNo, it just.
Speaker CIt started off professional, and now you're absolutely one of my dearest friends.
Speaker CBut I know exactly where I was.
Speaker CI was on a walk because my podcast time listening to besties with breasties was walking because that's how I process through movement.
Speaker CAnd I was actually listening to one when you called, just as a very studious and thoughtful executive director of a nonprofit.
Speaker CYou were calling just to see how things were going for me.
Speaker CYou didn't know me from Adam, and it turned into an almost hour conversation that was the genesis of our relationship that blossomed into gaps in treatment, and how could we dream differently and friendship along the way, quite honestly.
Speaker CAnd so, I mean, we've had a lot of interactions over.
Speaker CI mean, I've only been at this since 22, but I feel like our relationship surpasses that for sure.
Speaker AOh, my gosh.
Speaker AThat's so funny.
Speaker AI don't even remember that it was that impactful.
Speaker AHuh.
Speaker AWell, you know what, guys?
Speaker AI've decided it used to scare me that I have no memory.
Speaker AI'm sure it's some sort of disorder.
Speaker AI think they call it add, But I have, like, no memory.
Speaker AAnd it used to freak me out, and now I just think of it as an immense, like, gift, because I never feel sad about anything for long.
Speaker ALike, if I have a bad day, if somebody upsets me, if I get into it, like, I.
Speaker AIt doesn't matter, because in a week, I won't even remember that it happened.
Speaker CGoldfish.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker AI am a goldfish.
Speaker AIt is.
Speaker AYou know what?
Speaker AI'm gonna wear it proud.
Speaker AIt's okay.
Speaker AAnd maybe.
Speaker AMaybe if you're listening out there and you feel like you also have a goldfish brain, maybe you could reach out and make me feel less alone.
Speaker AI don't know.
Speaker CThat's too funny.
Speaker AWell, either way, I think when we were looking at, you know, starting off this, this year on the Relationship series, I was like, there's no two better people that I want to do this with than you two in terms of just our different dynamics.
Speaker AAnd I want to actually kind of lead into that because I have gotten very creative, and I created a quiz called what Kind of Bestie Are youe?
Speaker AAnd we're gonna figure out exactly, you know, if we're all the same or if we're all different.
Speaker AI'm kind of excited to dig into it.
Speaker ABut before we do that, because you guys had homework, like, we all filled out the quiz in advance, correct?
Speaker BYep, yep, yep, yep.
Speaker AOkay, so before we jump into that, you guys want to do Boobs in the News?
Speaker BYeah, for sure.
Speaker ABoobs in the News is a fun segment where we read funny tweets by real people or ridiculous news stories.
Speaker ABibs in the news.
Speaker ABibs in the news.
Speaker ABibs in the news.
Speaker AOkay, are you guys ready for this one?
Speaker AThis says, oregon beachgoer comes to the rescue of a beached shark.
Speaker ANow, my first question when I read this is to myself was, if I came across a beached shark, would I attempt to help it?
Speaker AWould you guys attempt to help the shark?
Speaker CYes.
Speaker CNo.
Speaker BOkay.
Speaker AI can already tell our bestie's quiz is going to be radically.
Speaker ANo.
Speaker CIt should have been on the quiz.
Speaker AI think I would stand there and just, like, think about it for so long that the shark would die because I was trying to decide whether or not to intervene.
Speaker ASo an Oregon woman was taking a sunset stroll on the beach with her dogs, and she ended up grabbing a stranded shark by the tail and returning it to the ocean.
Speaker ASo she saw something in the sand.
Speaker AShe thought it was driftwood.
Speaker AThen she noticed it was moving.
Speaker AAnd so basically she had said that she had watched enough Shark Week to know that if you grab it by the tail, it can't whip around and bite you.
Speaker AI don't know that we know that for certain.
Speaker ALike, do we know anatomically if all sharks are not able.
Speaker AIs it like a snake where, if you grab it behind the head, it can't get.
Speaker AYou know what I mean?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker AHow do we know with certainty?
Speaker AThat takes a fair amount of confidence.
Speaker BI feel like that does.
Speaker BI definitely would say that's why I said no so quickly, because I wouldn't want one of my limbs to be.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker BYou know, taken from me.
Speaker AI mean, I love animals, but.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker AI don't know if I'm gonna risk an arm.
Speaker BThe only thing I was just thinking is if I was standing there, I feel like I would try to help it, but from a distance.
Speaker BSo, like.
Speaker BLike, you poke it like a stick?
Speaker BYes.
Speaker BLike, I would, like, go try to find, like, a piece of driftwood or, you know, something to, like, prod it back into the ocean.
Speaker AJamie, you're being quiet.
Speaker AWould you just go up and just drag that beast right into the water?
Speaker CWell, I'm very action oriented, for sure.
Speaker CI was just reminiscing about a snapping turtle the size of a sewer lid that I Got into a Tupperware bin and got back to the water in our neighborhood.
Speaker CSo I think that's pretty similar to losing a limb.
Speaker CSo I guess I would just go for it.
Speaker AOh, my gosh.
Speaker AJamie's.
Speaker AJamie's risking fingers to save the snapping turtle.
Speaker ANope.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker AI remember one time, my kids, we were all on our boat on the lake and there was a mouse in the boat.
Speaker ASo, you know, it must have gotten in and before we took off and then it was unfortunately on the water and, you know, I was just gonna throw em overboard and let him drown, but the kids were like, you know, really upset about it.
Speaker ASo they got a Pringles can and emptied it out and basically put this mouse in the Pringles can and then swam it to shore.
Speaker BOh, my gosh.
Speaker AI know, I know.
Speaker AI was like.
Speaker AAnd you know, I look back on that and I'm like, we didn't pull a banker and try to get them closer.
Speaker ANo, we made them like go a football length with this mouse in a can, you know, just.
Speaker AAnd a Pringles can just to save.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker BHow did they get the mouse in the can?
Speaker AOh, well, that was a party trick.
Speaker AI mean, that.
Speaker AThere was a lot of screaming and squealing and chasing and eventually we cornered it and got it in there, you know, but yeah, that's.
Speaker AYou don't want to be the one that like smushes the mouse in front of the kids, though.
Speaker AThe children.
Speaker CNo, no, that trauma.
Speaker CSo wait, who's the boob in the news in this story?
Speaker ABeth.
Speaker AOkay, there's no.
Speaker ASo there's really no boob because everybody was.
Speaker AOkay.
Speaker AShe basically got it out into the water and when she first put it out there, it wasn't deep enough and he was still kind of stuck.
Speaker ASo then she had to fling him out even further.
Speaker ABut she.
Speaker AShe went ahead and she saved this shark.
Speaker CHow big was the shark?
Speaker CNow I'm picturing a woman.
Speaker ASo that's the thing, right.
Speaker AAt first when I read this, I was like, this is going to be a tiny little shark, like a little hammerhead shark or something.
Speaker AVery non threatening.
Speaker AOh, no, they're smaller, but they look like great whites.
Speaker COh, my gosh.
Speaker AYeah, they look like great whites.
Speaker AI'm not going to call this lady a boob because it all worked out.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker ABut if I see something like that looks like a great white on the shore, I'm calling like animal control.
Speaker AI'm not trying to attempt this myself.
Speaker BYeah, that's what I think I would do.
Speaker BI would definitely seek Help.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker AI'm sure that there's, you know, ocean people on call for.
Speaker APeople on call for.
Speaker BYeah, definitely.
Speaker BI think that I would have, like, stood there, I would have tried to help, like, from afar, and then I would have phoned a friend to help.
Speaker ARight.
Speaker AThat's.
Speaker AThat is, to me, the safest way to do it.
Speaker ASo then once I read this story, I was like, oh.
Speaker ABecause they identified that this was probably a juvenile salmon shark.
Speaker AAnd so that's what led me to Google it, and that's what led me to realize that they look like great whites, and there are almost no confirmed attacks on humans.
Speaker ASo I guess they're fairly friendly.
Speaker AThis is kind of gross.
Speaker AThe embryos, these little guys consume unfertilized eggs from the mother in the womb.
Speaker CEw.
Speaker AYeah, so they definitely have, like, a hunter mentality from in vitro.
Speaker BInteresting.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker ASo I don't know that there's a boob in that story, other than I think maybe the lady for attempting it, because it could have gone the other way.
Speaker AYeah, there's your boob bibs in the news.
Speaker ABibs and the news.
Speaker AAll right, ladies, what kind of breasty are you?
Speaker AWere you surprised by the answers?
Speaker ALike, were you surprised to find out what kind of bestie you are?
Speaker CI wanted to, like, put commas and add context.
Speaker AOf course you did.
Speaker CBecause depending on the day, I could be any one of those.
Speaker CI was trying to stay with, like, my consistent answer, but.
Speaker AOkay.
Speaker AJess, what about you?
Speaker AWere you surprised what kind of bestie you were?
Speaker BI. I was.
Speaker BI mean, honestly, sometimes I was like, oh, there was, like, two answers, and then, like, a couple of them, I even was like, I was like, before breast cancer and after breast cancer, like, yep.
Speaker BWhich one I would have been or which one I am becoming now?
Speaker AOh, that's true.
Speaker AI didn't even look at it from that point of view.
Speaker AI did it as Beth.
Speaker ANow post cancer, I didn't do it as Beth.
Speaker APre cancer.
Speaker AYep.
Speaker AThat could be a whole nother episode.
Speaker BThat could.
Speaker AAll right, so what do you guys think?
Speaker AShould we go question by question, or do you want to just talk about which one we ended up being?
Speaker BI feel like maybe.
Speaker BI mean, there's only seven questions.
Speaker AAll right, let's do it.
Speaker BSo maybe.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker ABecause you know what?
Speaker AIf you're listening and you're not driving, maybe you get a piece of paper and find out what kind of bestie you are, too.
Speaker AAll right, so number one was when a friend calls you crying, a you drop everything to comfort her, you're Crying, too.
Speaker ABy the end, I feel like that's you all the way, Jamie, and not what I put.
Speaker AIt's not what you put.
Speaker AOh, my God.
Speaker AEvery time I talk to you, you're like, this is what happened.
Speaker AYes.
Speaker AEvery time I talk to you, you're like, this is what happened to my friend.
Speaker AI'm absolutely in tears.
Speaker AIt's just my heart breaks for them, you know?
Speaker AWill you pray for them?
Speaker AI'm like, you are like a complete empath.
Speaker ASo that's okay.
Speaker ASo Jamie didn't pick a B.
Speaker AYou listen and help her make a plan to fix it.
Speaker AI feel like that was you, Jess.
Speaker AWhat did you pick?
Speaker BOkay, well, I felt like B and D were kind of the same.
Speaker BOkay, you tell her.
Speaker AOkay.
Speaker AThat D is.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker AOkay.
Speaker AThat sucks.
Speaker AWhat are we going to do about it?
Speaker BYeah, so I actually circled D, but I felt like B and D were, like, the same.
Speaker AYeah, B is, like, the nicer version.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker AD's like, quit being a baby.
Speaker AWe're gonna fix this together.
Speaker ALet's go.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker AOkay.
Speaker AAnd then C, which is what I put for myself, is, you care, but you remind her to take care of herself.
Speaker CYeah, I would have guessed that for you.
Speaker AYou would have.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker AOkay, two, your group is trying to decide where to eat.
Speaker AYou're the one who, A, just wants everyone to be happy.
Speaker AI'm good with whatever.
Speaker AB weighs the options and makes a practical choice.
Speaker AC asks, okay, but who actually made a reservation?
Speaker AOr D takes charge.
Speaker AWe're going to Mexican, end of story.
Speaker AYou got.
Speaker CI was A, as long as it's not shellfish.
Speaker COkay.
Speaker AAll right.
Speaker AI'm good with whatever.
Speaker AThat makes sense.
Speaker AThat's what I would have guessed for you, Jamie.
Speaker AI was.
Speaker BI was A all the way.
Speaker BI just want everybody to be happy.
Speaker BI don't care.
Speaker BI'm good with whatever.
Speaker AOkay, anybody want to guess what I put takes charge.
Speaker BWe're going to Mexican, end of story.
Speaker AThat would have been pre cancer buff.
Speaker ANow it's okay.
Speaker ABut who made the reservation?
Speaker ADo we have a reservation?
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker BOkay.
Speaker BInteresting.
Speaker AAll right, three, someone criticizes something you did.
Speaker AYou A, feel it deeply and replay it in your head all week?
Speaker CJamie, I feel exposed right now.
Speaker AB, consider whether it's true, then move on.
Speaker AC, set an internal boundary.
Speaker AThat's their opinion, not my truth.
Speaker AOr D, ask them to clarify and maybe push back a little.
Speaker BI felt like I was A again all the way.
Speaker AReally?
Speaker AYou feel it.
Speaker AYou feel it deeply, and you'll replay it in your head all week?
Speaker AJust.
Speaker AThat surprises me.
Speaker BYep.
Speaker BYep, for sure.
Speaker AJamie, is that you as well?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CComma, post cancer.
Speaker CCan you tell me a little bit more about that and maybe push back?
Speaker CBut A is really who I am, but I'm trying.
Speaker AIt's not a bad thing.
Speaker BI.
Speaker AWell, it is when you ruminate, so maybe.
Speaker BRight, right.
Speaker AWell, I am.
Speaker AB, consider whether it's true, then move on.
Speaker BYou could definitely see that.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CYou're like, I'm not staying here real long.
Speaker CI won't remember anyway.
Speaker AYeah, I mean, I'll.
Speaker AI'll consider it.
Speaker AThere's been plenty of times where I'm like, is that true?
Speaker AAnd then I might be like, yep, that's true.
Speaker AAnd either.
Speaker AAnd then I usually apologize, or I'm like, no, that's not true.
Speaker AAnd then I just move.
Speaker AOkay, your ideal Saturday is A, journaling, connecting with a friend or recharging emotionally.
Speaker AB, cleaning, meal prepping or organizing your week.
Speaker AC, doing something peaceful and solo.
Speaker ANo drama, no noise.
Speaker AD, knocking out a to do list or planning your next big thing.
Speaker AWhat do you think, Beth?
Speaker AWhat were you cleaning, meal prepping, and organizing my week?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker AI just don't feel good if I start my week in chaos.
Speaker ABut I don't like that I spend my weekends that way.
Speaker AI wish I had more like of that during the week to where the weekends don't become the only time I can do that.
Speaker AWhat about you guys?
Speaker BI was D, knocking out a to do list or planning the next big thing.
Speaker AOkay, Yeah, I see that with you.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BI do think, though, that I am leaning more into, like the peaceful and like, being more aware of connecting with friends or recharging.
Speaker BSo I think that, like, that's the D in me is like the go, go, go.
Speaker BBut I'm really trying to be more aware of not go, go, going all the time and like, slowing down, connecting, becoming.
Speaker ABefore I ask this qu.
Speaker AThis follow up question, Jess, which one did you pick?
Speaker AJamie?
Speaker CI had B, D, which they're kind of the same to me, but I added including a great workout, so.
Speaker CBut I'm all about, like, getting ahead of the next week.
Speaker AOkay, so here was my follow up question to that is where do our husbands fit on that spectrum?
Speaker ABecause my husband, the last thing he wants to do on his weekends is like, to do lists.
Speaker COh, interesting.
Speaker AHe hates a honey do list.
Speaker AI have had to do it anyway because otherwise he won't prioritize stuff.
Speaker ABut he would be the guy that would want to have a chill weekend.
Speaker COh, mine's making the to do list.
Speaker AYours is?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker AOkay.
Speaker ASo he's a go go.
Speaker AI feel like Tom is too.
Speaker AJess, is that not true?
Speaker BNo, that is not true.
Speaker AOkay.
Speaker BI always make the list and then I go, go, go until the list is done.
Speaker BI will say that the last couple months I've been trying to make the list with the kids and Tom.
Speaker BLike, we're all in the same room and then everybody just kind of divvies up what we're doing.
Speaker BAnd that actually works really well with just.
Speaker BThen I'm not doing the whole list myself.
Speaker BLike, when I'm thinking of like, cleaning and organizing or grocery shopping or, you know, all of those things.
Speaker BSo, yeah, he's more of a calm, peaceful, no drama.
Speaker ADoesn't need to get done right away.
Speaker BDoesn't need to get.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker BNot worried about the week.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker BI mean, but.
Speaker BBut then is.
Speaker BBut not like over the top.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker AWe call it.
Speaker COh, go ahead.
Speaker ANo, no, no, you.
Speaker CWe call it blessings hour.
Speaker CIf everyone blesses each other in an hour, we'll be done and we can can move on.
Speaker CSo we divide and conquer two.
Speaker CJess.
Speaker CAnd then I'm like, almost the other stream where I just shut it down and I don't want to do anything.
Speaker AYeah, it does feel like one extreme or the other.
Speaker AEither I want to sit on the couch and watch movies all day, or I want to get everything on the planet done.
Speaker AThere is no in between, which is weird.
Speaker AI don't understand why I can't find that middle road.
Speaker BWell, maybe put the movies on the to do list.
Speaker BLike, I've like, starting to put like some of those a workout or yoga or going for a walk on the to do list.
Speaker BAnd then I feel good when I get it done, but yet I'm still relaxing.
Speaker ADo you know what's like, really helped me with getting the kids involved too, is like they also hate it when I hand them a list and say, here are your chores for the day.
Speaker ASo what I do is all the chores that need to get done that day.
Speaker AI write each individual one on a piece of scrap paper and fold it up and put it in a, like, jar.
Speaker AAnd then they each pick three and it's random.
Speaker ASo then sometimes, like, they'll get easy chores.
Speaker ASometimes they'll get a 1 hard chore and 2 easy, you know, but they.
Speaker AThey feel like it's more fair.
Speaker AAnd I don't get as many complaints because it's just this random assignment because, yeah, like, when I assign them, if I'm like, hey, Ben, I need you to do the toilets in the bathroom and Emily, can you clean out the microwave?
Speaker AShe's.
Speaker AHe's like, are you serious?
Speaker AThe toilets are so much wor than the microwave, you know?
Speaker ASo this way everybody has their chores and they know I'm not, like, trying to favor one over the other.
Speaker BYeah, that's a great idea.
Speaker AYeah, it helps.
Speaker AAll right, number five.
Speaker AYour friends would describe you as A, deeply caring.
Speaker AShe feels everything.
Speaker AB, dependable and steady.
Speaker AShe's our rock.
Speaker AC, calm and balanced.
Speaker AShe knows how to say no.
Speaker AD, bold and direct.
Speaker AShe tells it like it is.
Speaker AI know what you're gonna say.
Speaker CBeth, you're D. Correct.
Speaker CI'm A. Jess, I could see you as A or B. Oh, that's interesting.
Speaker BBecause I circled them both.
Speaker AYeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker AI see that you're.
Speaker AYou feel like a very stable person.
Speaker AOh, well, thank you.
Speaker BI don't know that I've always been that way, but I think I definitely.
Speaker BAnd improving.
Speaker AWell, there's your encouragement, people.
Speaker AYou don't always have to be stable.
Speaker AThat's right, unstable.
Speaker AAnd then find your footing.
Speaker AAll right, number six, In a group project, you're most likely to, A, make sure everyone feels heard and supported.
Speaker AB, keep everyone organized and on schedule.
Speaker AC, set boundaries when the group starts to over commit.
Speaker AD, take charge and make decisions.
Speaker CWhat do you guys think?
Speaker AI think you're a Jamie, just because I've seen you facilitate the boot camps.
Speaker AAnd if somebody is not speaking up because they're more of an introvert, you're very good about making sure that they have an opportunity to express themselves.
Speaker COkay, but this says group project, and that's where I draw the line.
Speaker CI be all the way on group projects.
Speaker AOh.
Speaker ASo, like, not less.
Speaker ALess about, like, relational and more about getting it done.
Speaker CIf we're in a group project, like, I'm going to keep everyone on point.
Speaker CIf it's a facilitation around whatever, Absolutely.
Speaker CI'm A.
Speaker AOkay, Got it.
Speaker AThat makes sense.
Speaker AWhat about you, Jess?
Speaker BSo I put on the side.
Speaker BIt depends on the people that are around me and, like, what their strengths are.
Speaker BI think, like, if it's a group project and I feel like I am, like, the expert, then I am deep.
Speaker BTake charge, make decisions, divvy it up.
Speaker BBut if it's something I'm not the expert on, then I'm going to be the be.
Speaker BI'm going to keep everybody organized and on schedule.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker AHow lovely I put that.
Speaker AI'm C. I like a good boundary.
Speaker AYep, I like a good boundary.
Speaker ABut I am content to let somebody else organize and schedule and then just tell me where to go.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker AOkay.
Speaker ANumber seven.
Speaker AThis is the last one.
Speaker AYour life motto is closest to A, feel it all.
Speaker AB, stay steady.
Speaker AC, protect your peace.
Speaker AOr D, go big or go home.
Speaker AI'm protect your peace at all costs.
Speaker AI am C. Yep.
Speaker BI picked.
Speaker BI picked two.
Speaker BStay steady, be, and protect your peace.
Speaker BBut I did write that I used to be go big or go home.
Speaker BBut I'm trying to incorporate more balance and peace and calm in my life now.
Speaker AI feel like go big or go home got us in this boat.
Speaker BYeah, I agree.
Speaker BI agree.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CI put.
Speaker BYes.
Speaker CI've been all of these in different seasons of life.
Speaker CAnd C is what I'm really trying to anchor in.
Speaker AAll right, so what were your results?
Speaker ACause were you mostly A's, mostly B's, mostly C's, or mostly D's?
Speaker CJess, you go.
Speaker BI was tie between the A and the D. So the empath and the challenger.
Speaker AOkay, interesting.
Speaker ASo, empath, what were you, Jamie?
Speaker CI was completely split between empath and anchor.
Speaker AOkay.
Speaker AOkay.
Speaker ASo mostly A's means you're an empath.
Speaker AYou're the heart of the group.
Speaker AIntuitive, nurturing, and emotionally connected.
Speaker ABees is the anchor.
Speaker AGrounded and steady.
Speaker AYou bring calm when things get chaotic.
Speaker AAnd Cs, which is what I was a boundary keeper.
Speaker AYou protect your peace and encourage others to do the same.
Speaker AAnd mostly, Deez is the challenger.
Speaker AYou're bold, confident, and push others to show up as their best selves.
Speaker AWho is a challenger?
Speaker BI was tied.
Speaker AYou're good at that, Jess, at pushing people to be their best selves.
Speaker AThe empath and the challenger.
Speaker AThat was you, right?
Speaker AYep.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker AWell, there you go.
Speaker AI think we're well suited, ladies.
Speaker AWe all kind of bring a little something different to the table.
Speaker BI agree.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker AWell, good.
Speaker AOkay, so I want to know what excites you most about this upcoming series on relationships.
Speaker AIs there any episode in particular you're excited to explore or topic?
Speaker AWhat are your thoughts?
Speaker BI am really excited about episode two, which is learning to love yourself again.
Speaker BBecause I have been working on that, so I feel good about that.
Speaker BI. I'm excited.
Speaker ADid you love yourself before cancer and then now you feel like it's a struggle?
Speaker BNo, I loved myself before cancer, but I feel like going through cancer and coming through it and out the other side, and then I think that it's been, like, harder to be more accepting of where I am now versus where I was before cancer.
Speaker BI don't know if that makes sense, but I think that you have to learn to Love yourself again after you heal and get through everything.
Speaker AI feel like that's the title of one of our episodes is like Reintroducing yourself to yourself.
Speaker AI don't know.
Speaker AI think I had a catchier title than that.
Speaker AReimagining yourself.
Speaker ARight.
Speaker AOr Reintroducing yourself to.
Speaker AI don't know.
Speaker ABut I get what you're saying.
Speaker AWhat about you, Jamie?
Speaker CI just think the, the breadth and depth of all of these topics.
Speaker CThere's humor, there's bravery.
Speaker CLike, I just think they're all going to be really cool and timely.
Speaker CAnd I think there's ones that I totally resonate with and some that I'm.
Speaker CI can't wait to hear others perspective on this.
Speaker CUm, so I'm just excited about the whole thing, quite honestly.
Speaker AYeah, I, I agree.
Speaker AI'm kind of excited to talk to people whose experience is different than mine.
Speaker ALike, we're going to talk to women about dating post cancer and I think that's going to be super interesting because they have to deal with all the same stuff, right.
Speaker AAcceptance and the new.
Speaker AThe new you and kind of rediscovering who you are and then they have to freaking project that to a.
Speaker AA new person.
Speaker AAnd I think that is just going to be really fascinating to find out what it feels like to date post cancer.
Speaker ASo I'm kind of excited to talk to those folks.
Speaker AI'm also really excited about what I call miserable man syndrome because I am convinced that men go through like a legit midlife crisis and they struggle just as much as we do.
Speaker AIt just looks completely different.
Speaker ASo I'm kind of excited about exploring that as well.
Speaker ASo we've got a lot of interesting topics coming our way, I think.
Speaker BYeah.
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Speaker AAll right, final words, ladies.
Speaker AI'm excited to have you on board.
Speaker AI think it's going to be a super fun year.
Speaker AWhat do you think?
Speaker AHow do you want listeners to feel after kind of listening to us this year?
Speaker AAnything, any.
Speaker AAnything on your mind?
Speaker BI hope that others get out of the podcast what I Got out of the podcast.
Speaker BWhen I was listening to the podcast, going through treatment, I always felt very hopeful and I found myself smiling and laughing as you and Sarah would like, kind of banter back and forth.
Speaker BAnd I remember on the weeks of treatment or just when I wasn't feeling very good, those were the weeks that I would like kind of binge listen to the podcast because it gave me so much hope for to listen to other people that have been through breast cancer and they understood what I was going through.
Speaker BAnd so I hope that that's how others feel listening to this next season.
Speaker AAmazing.
Speaker CWell, listening to Jess, like, I really, I do feel kind of, kind of to come full circle, like, we're standing on the shoulders of giants like you and Sarah set such a strong foundation with a very clear lane to serve newly diagnosed members.
Speaker CAnd so, like, I'm excited about this new chapter and what life after can look like for all of us.
Speaker CAnd I think the one thing that we do really well at Faith Through Fire is community.
Speaker CAnd there's a spot for everyone.
Speaker CAnd I think this series is really going to hit that.
Speaker CSo I hope people feel seen, connected, they laugh with us, maybe cry with me, you know, but, like, I think it's going to be really, really relevant and timely.
Speaker AWow, that sounds awesome.
Speaker AWell, thanks, guys.
Speaker AI appreciate you.
Speaker AUntil next time.
Speaker ASee ya.
Speaker CBye.
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